Hey there! I haven't posted in a while. Let's just say - I've been a little busy. Well, I've been reflecting a lot lately on how things are going and how I'm feeling. I get down on myself when I am having a bad day or grouchy. I think that I shouldn't feel this way. I should be Super Mom!
I remember being pregnant with my 3rd and asking EVERYONE with 3 kids how it was going from 2 to 3. Most people said it was the easiest transition (I think they were just trying to make me feel good). A few said it was the straw that broke the camel's back - the one that sent everything over the edge. I refused to believe the later and was confident that I'd form my own opinion. I was stronger than them! I was calmer and more organized! Well, my 3rd baby is 4 months old and, honestly, I have to agree with the later. Sorry to all of you who are pregnant with your 3rd or thinking of 3.
I think that right before the baby was born, I had a lot of free time - just time to myself. The girls played together all day long. Everyone could care for them. I didn't have to be with them all the time. They were both in preschool. Then I had the baby. He is the World's Best Baby! But - I am nursing and he needs me ALL THE TIME! I feel like people still take the girls, but I don't have anytime to myself because of the baby.
Trust me, I'm not complaining!!! I am thankful for my friends like Janna and Sheri who listen to me unload on them. They both have 3 or more. Janna is starting to get some relief and Sheri is 10 years ahead. She gives me hope. They can comfort me and assure me that I'm not a wimp. It's hard having 3 kids. My Grandma had 6 and said it was really hard going from 2 to 3.
I think the best way I can describe it is CONSTANT. It's not crazy, it's constant. I often remember how easy it was having 2. But I would have always wanted 3. No matter what, so this is what I have. 3 little blessings that simply exhaust me!
I am so glad I have you to give me a "heads up". I know there is no possible way to mentally and physically prepare for three kids... but I feel like I am not going into it blindsided.
ReplyDeleteJust keep thinking, there is light at the end of the tunnel and someday you will miss the wonderful moments when your sweet children were young.
I just keep thinking about how cool it will be when they are all grown up... how close they will be as siblings, and the big loving family that will surround you.
I'm no Mom, but I can say that you will get some "alone" time next weekend and I HOPE you will have a great time with Josh (and me) as we celebrate my wedding! Cheers to that! :) You already know that I think you ARE Super Mom!
ReplyDeleteI hear you Myah! I have been meaning to write a post about the same thing. Whenever Jack is asleep and I just have Corbin and Sam and sometimes think "Why did I have that third one? Two is so nice and easy". But then I look at Jack and remember why! I just keep thinking Jackson is getting older everyday and soon he will be off playing with the big kids and no so demanding anymore too.
ReplyDeleteOh friend. I know how you're feeling. The biggest "change" I notice is every spring when it's finally nice enough to go outside - They are all one year older! Last year Ada was slower than the other 2 and got so frustrated. Now she keeps up and they all play together and I actually get to bring a book outside with me when we play!! I promise the "constant" gradually fades. Not completely, but it does fade. At least their utter dependence does.
ReplyDeleteThe best thing I can say is what Sheri has said to me before. You may not miss this stage later on, but you will miss THIS Ian, the one who is 4 months old. You'll never get him back. You'll never get 3 year-old Halle back or 5 year-old Sophie back. I have to remind myself of this daily, and it's really starting to sink in.
We love you guys so very much and will listen to you vent anytime you need it!
Now who wants a martini??? :)