These are my follow up remarks from the poll...
"Has having children made you closer or more distant from your husband?"
You overwhelmingly responded - A LITTLE OF BOTH AT TIMES.
Yes, I have to agree. I feel the same. It takes a lot of effort from BOTH to stay intimately connected.
Well - I AM NOT AN EXPERT. (as you all know)
I write only from my research/reading, mentoring I've received, experience in the situation and things I'm passionate about.
This is what I have to say about this issue. You can take it or leave it.
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1. Get God involved in your marriage. 3 strands are stronger than 2! Visualize a braid.
2. Take a moment each day to connect/check in with each other. What can I do for you? How are you? How can I pray for you?
3. Take a couple of hours each week to have a DATE. That may be a date at home when the kids go down! We love these dates!! :D and be intimate! Yes, I said it!!
4. Take 24 hours once a month or every few months to go away together. If you don't have family that will watch your kids, barter with a friend! Don't feel guilty for leaving your kids. Your marriage needs it!!
5. Pray for each other. YOU CANNOT CHANGE YOUR HUSBAND and he cannot change you.
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Ok - I think I'll stop there. :) I could keep going, but a list of 5 is enough for now.
This is my advice at the age of 30. I wonder what it will be when I'm 40... then 50...
Would you like to share ways you've stayed connected with your spouse?
We love popping popcorn, building fires, and having a glass of wine when the kids go down! :)
ReplyDeleteWe have "late dinners" once or twice a month. Feed the kids early, put them to bed early, and have an awesome dinner to ourselves!
ReplyDeleteAnd we get away every few months as well...usually for a business trip or something...but it's still great just to be together without kids! :)
yes, I always tag along with Josh on his business trips. I love just staying in the hotel room "staring at the walls". :) It a great (paid for) getaway for both of us and we get to go out at night!
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